How Can You Tell If You Are In Victim Mentality?

Having a victim mentality robs you of your sense of personal power. Are you living in Victimville? Take this quiz to find out.


1. My first response to a setback is to blame another for what’s happened.
2. No matter what I do, things are not really going to change for me.
3. I often find myself beginning thoughts with phrases like “I cant….”I’m no good at …. I’ve never been able to…..
4. When angry, I rarely begin sentences with "I".
5. Conversations with others are often about how hard things are.
6. When I meet a person on the street that I haven’t seen in a while and they ask me how I am, I say, “I’m fine” and then start telling them all the things that are wrong in my life.
7. I must have done something really horrible in a past life because nothing ever works for me.
8. When friends offer advice, I usually counter it with a “Yes, but….”
9. No one really understands me or knows how challenging my life really is.
10. I’m always so busy with work and things I need to do that I don’t have time to do the things I want to do.


Living with a victim mentality usually keeps us stuck in old patters and can be an externalized way of dealing with anger or fear of change that you haven't dealt with. If you answered True to some of the statements above, you may want to explore this further so as to not limit your life and your happiness.

8 Tips for Happiness

1. Live in the present.
2. Take time to be silent.
3. Relinquish the need for external approval.
4. Listen to your body.
5. Let go of anger.
6. Don't judge.
7. Don't contaminate your body with toxins.
8. Maintain your perspective.

Happiness is our life purpose - the only reason we are here. What are your tips for happiness?

The Gift - Quote for the Day

I love this quote. It truly is what a gift is all about! Enjoy...


We give of ourselves when
we give gifts of the heart:
love, kindness, joy, understanding,
sympathy, tolerance, forgiveness.

We give of ourselves when
we give gifts of the mind:
ideas, dreams, purposes,
ideals,principles, plans,
inventions, projects, poetry.

We give of ourselves when
we give gifts of the spirit:
prayer, vision, beauty,
aspiration, peace, faith.

We give of ourselves when
we give the gift of words:
encouragement, inspiration, guidance.

Emerson said it well:
'Rings and jewels are not gifts,
but apologies for gifts.
The only true gift is
a portion of thyself.'

- Wilferd A. Peterson, 1900-1995 American Author and Columnist

Do it Yourself - Quote for the Day

Instead of telling the world
What it is supposed to do,
Why don't you immediately do it yourself?
In this way, I assure you,
Your happiness will be surprisingly multiplied.

- Sri Chinmoy
Indian Philosopher and Teacher

I thought this was a great quote about taking responsibility for our lives. Isn't that the truth? If we do the things we think need to be done, creating the life we want, we can't go wrong.